Comments on: Setting Bounderies…Feeling Guilty. Where’s THAT Boundery? http://chellewrites.com/2010/01/25/setting-bounderies-feeling-guilty-wheres-that-boundery/ The Disjointed Ramblings of a Southern Girl! Fri, 16 Mar 2012 15:03:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Beki http://chellewrites.com/2010/01/25/setting-bounderies-feeling-guilty-wheres-that-boundery/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Beki Tue, 26 Jan 2010 18:35:57 +0000 http://chellewrites.com/2010/01/25/setting-bounderies-feeling-guilty-wheres-that-boundery/#comment-66 You're a nice person and it's hard for a nice person to do something that isn't nice. However, this person did this to you without regard for your feelings, without regard for the feelings of their significant other (except for whatever manipulating they could get away with) and I don't think this person has earned a lot of leeway from you. You've done what you can do, most of what you should do, and the parts you didn't do already, you left out in order to be NICE to them so as not to cause them any more trouble. Stop being nice about it and let it go. Cut the cord. Hasta la vista. And let them figure the rest out for themselves. You can't save anyone else without first securing your own sanity and your daughter is one day going to need a sane mother. It's HARD writing with non-gender-specific pronouns. And sounds bad, too. You’re a nice person and it’s hard for a nice person to do something that isn’t nice. However, this person did this to you without regard for your feelings, without regard for the feelings of their significant other (except for whatever manipulating they could get away with) and I don’t think this person has earned a lot of leeway from you. You’ve done what you can do, most of what you should do, and the parts you didn’t do already, you left out in order to be NICE to them so as not to cause them any more trouble.

Stop being nice about it and let it go. Cut the cord. Hasta la vista. And let them figure the rest out for themselves. You can’t save anyone else without first securing your own sanity and your daughter is one day going to need a sane mother.

It’s HARD writing with non-gender-specific pronouns. And sounds bad, too.

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